[ccef] Six ways we grow together

GROWING
TOGETHER
CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups
DVD Curriculum Series
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
GROWING TOGETHER
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry
in the body of Christ
with David Powlison,
Edward T. Welch,
Michael Emlet,
Aaron Sironi,
and Steve Midgley
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups
ccef.org
Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation
978-1-938294-20-4
GROWING TOGETHER
As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are
connected to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important
role  to  play,  both  in  giving  and  receiving  help.  The  ministry  of  one-on-one  conversations  
is part of God’s vision for maturing his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and
every believer to do your part by speaking helpful, constructive words to others.
So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores
six ways we grow together as the body of Christ.
•
By
expr
essing
 true need for God and for others
•
By
combining
 knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture
•
By
praying
 in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God
•
By
understanding
 the centrality of friendship in the Christian life
•
By
keeping
 a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity
•
By
maturing
 together as each of us puts the Spirit’s gifts to work so that we grow up into
the likeness of Christ.
Growing Together
 identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual
vitality that are prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study
shows how vital daily relationships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical
counseling.  This  curriculum  has  been  designed  for  individuals  and  groups  who  want  to  
grow as care givers in the body of Christ.  
Pastors,  elders,  deacons,  missionaries,  youth  workers,  small  group  leaders,  and  all  God’s  
people who care about others will want to work through this study together. The vision the
Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become a growing reality in your church.
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Growing Together—A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
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Speakers
Edward T. Welch, MDiv, PhD
David Powlison, MDiv, PhD
Aaron Sironi, MS, LCPC
Michael Emlet, MDiv, MD
Steve Midgley, MA, MB BS, DipMin
Curriculum Development
Bruce E. Eaton, MDiv
Rebecca Eaton, MA
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Getting Started
2
Our Neediness is God’s Gift  
5
Edward T. Welch
How God Uses All of Us in the Lives of Others  
19
Edward T. Welch
Why We Pray and How We Pray
35
David Powlison
Spiritual Friendship
53
Aaron Sironi
Persevering in Ministry
71
Michael Emlet
Helping Our Churches Become Communities of Change
87
Steve Midgley
Group Handouts
102
About the Speakers
109
Copyright © 2016, by the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation.
All rights reserved.
GROWING TOGETHER
2
As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are connected
to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important role to play, both in
giving and receiving help. The ministry of one-on-one conversations is part of God’s vision for maturing
his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and every believer to do your part by speaking helpful,
constructive words.
So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores six ways
we grow together as the body of Christ.
•
By expressing true need for God and for others
•
By combining knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture
•
By praying in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God
•
By understanding the centrality of friendship in the Christian life
•
By keeping a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity
•
By maturing together as each of us puts the Spirit’s gifts to work so that we grow up into the
likeness of Christ
Growing Together
 identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual vitality that are
prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study shows how vital daily rela-
tionships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical counseling. This curriculum has been
designed for individuals and groups who want to grow as care givers in the body of Christ.
Pastors, elders, deacons, missionaries, youth workers, small group leaders, and all God’s people who care
about others will want to work through this study. The vision the Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become
a growing reality in your church.
About the Workbook
Each section of the Workbook includes a Before You Begin activity. Immediately following is the Intro-
duction which corresponds to the beginning of a video. Talks conclude with a Reflection Activity fol-
lowed by Study Questions.
Getting Started
3
A Note For Groups
This curriculum can be used at two different levels for group study. For an in-depth study, both leader
and participants will purchase and use the Workbook. Participants will have the time (2 hours per week)
and interest (study and reflection outside the group) for in-depth study.
For an introductory study, the group leader can purchase and use the Workbook as preparation for fa-
cilitating group discussion in a small group setting or Sunday School class. The group leader will provide
participants with copies of the Group Handouts. In this setting, we recommend selecting a few study
questions or activities that can be discussed in your allotted time-frame that meet the particular interests
of the group.
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How is the church to grow together, as one body of Christ?
•
By
expressing
 true need for God and for others.
•
By
combining
 knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture.
•
By
praying
 in ways that connect actual human need to the
promises of God.
•
By
understanding
 the centrality of friendship in the Christian life.
•
By
keeping
 a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity.
•
By
maturing
 together as each of us puts the Spirit’s gifts to work
so that we grow up into the likeness of Christ.
87
Helping Our Churches Become
Communities of Change
Steve Midgley
BEFORE YOU BEGIN
So where do we go from here? How do we grow together in the body of Christ? So far in this study we
have looked at a variety of ways this happens:
•
By
expressing
 true need for God and for others
•
By
combining
 knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture
•
By
praying
 in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God
•
By
understanding
 the centrality of friendship in the Christian life
•
By
keeping
 a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity
How is God encouraging you through this study?
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What goals do you have for your participation in the life of your church?
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INTRODUCTION
We end this curriculum with this question: What are you taking home with you? If what you have stud-
ied has been beneficial for you, then you ought to take something home that will make a difference to
your life in Christ and to your life with others in the church.
Here is the concern: it is easy for pastors to take away good ideas from this study for their congregations,
and for church members to take away good ideas for their pastors. Yet God never gives anyone the gift of
having good ideas for other people.
So the take-away from this study is this: What is it that God has in store for us? What is the change that
he might have us accomplish in our own lives? Ephesians 4 helps answer that question. It is a wonderful
place to discover what it means for us to minister side-by-side in the body of Christ.
CHANGE BEGINS WITH US
Ephesians 4 provides the turning point for Paul’s letter. For three glorious chapters Paul has been setting
out God’s great vision for his people.   
•
God will bring all things together under Christ.
•
God has made known to us the mystery of his will—to bring unity to all things in heaven
and on earth, under Christ.
•
God is creating a new humanity. One new people out of two, who will be a dwelling place in
which God lives by his Spirit.
•
This new humanity will reveal—even to the heavenly places—the manifold wisdom of  
God himself.
This is God’s great plan; a glorious picture of everything that God will accomplish through his people.
In Ephesians 4 Paul turns his gaze upon us, the church. What would Paul have us do? What would he
have us be in order to fulfill this great vision that God has in mind? Paul begins in a way we might not
expect in Ephesians 4:1–2.  
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be
completely humble.
As Paul turns his gaze upon the church, his very first instruction is to be humble. That is where  
change begins. Consider how a pastor might cast a vision for his church. Steve recounts his own ex-
perience of needing to begin with humility and confession as he considered the vision for his church
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2.
Do you struggle to embrace this vision—to rely upon everyone in your church to be part of
how God will mature you?
3.
Revisit this diagram from lesson 2. How can you grow in your knowledge of people and your
knowledge of God so you can be part of God maturing other people in your church?
Take time to sit quietly before the Lord and ask God to speak into your heart and mind. After you have
prayed to God, answer this question: What will you take away from this study?
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1
How People Change
 is a book and group study published by New Growth Press. It was developed from
Dynamics of Biblical
Change
, a course offered in CCEF’s School of Biblical Counseling, taught by David Powlison.
Fruitful Personal Ministry
Knowledge
of Person
Knowledge
of Scripture
GROWING
TOGETHER
CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups
DVD Curriculum Series
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
GROWING TOGETHER
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry
in the body of Christ
with David Powlison,
Edward T. Welch,
Michael Emlet,
Aaron Sironi,
and Steve Midgley
A biblical approach to fruitful ministry in the body of Christ
CCEF DVD Curriculum: Topical Studies for Individuals or Groups
ccef.org
Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation
978-1-938294-20-4
GROWING TOGETHER
As a Christian, you are inseparably joined to other people. Your welfare and your wisdom are
connected to the welfare and wisdom of others in the body of Christ. You have an important
role  to  play,  both  in  giving  and  receiving  help.  The  ministry  of  one-on-one  conversations  
is part of God’s vision for maturing his people. Ephesians 4 shows how God calls you and
every believer to do your part by speaking helpful, constructive words to others.
So where do you start? What does fruitful interpersonal ministry look like? This study explores
six ways we grow together as the body of Christ.
•
By
expr
essing
 true need for God and for others
•
By
combining
 knowledge of people with knowledge of Scripture
•
By
praying
 in ways that connect actual human need to the promises of God
•
By
understanding
 the centrality of friendship in the Christian life
•
By
keeping
 a close watch on ourselves in pursuit of integrity
•
By
maturing
 together as each of us puts the Spirit’s gifts to work so that we grow up into
the likeness of Christ.
Growing Together
 identifies key ingredients of humility, spiritual friendship, and spiritual
vitality that are prerequisites for relationships that honor God and help people. This study
shows how vital daily relationships benefit from a foundation of pastoral care and biblical
counseling.  This  curriculum  has  been  designed  for  individuals  and  groups  who  want  to  
grow as care givers in the body of Christ.  
Pastors,  elders,  deacons,  missionaries,  youth  workers,  small  group  leaders,  and  all  God’s  
people who care about others will want to work through this study together. The vision the
Spirit gives in Ephesians 4 can become a growing reality in your church.